Everyone talks about finding their purpose like it’s a hidden map waiting to be discovered. As if one day you’ll wake up and everything will make sense. But I’ve learned that it doesn’t happen like that. You don’t find purpose. You build it, slowly, through trial, error, and persistence.

When I first got into building things online, I had no idea what I was doing. I wasn’t some genius with a master plan. I just wanted to make something that felt mine. I remember sitting in front of my laptop for hours, trying to figure out how websites actually worked. Watching YouTube tutorials. Reading blogs that I barely understood. Breaking things, fixing them, and then breaking them again.

There was no clarity, no perfect moment of realization. Just curiosity mixed with frustration.

I had friends who were taking up stable jobs, people who had predictable paths. And there I was, trying to make sense of lines of code and wondering if any of it would ever be worth it. My parents didn’t fully understand what I was doing either. They just saw me sitting in front of a screen all day, typing away, with no guaranteed outcome.

But something in me didn’t want to stop. I didn’t know if I’d ever be great at it, but I wanted to keep getting better. And that’s when I realized that no one starts by knowing what they’re good at. You become good at what you choose to stay with long enough.

Over time, what was once confusing started to feel familiar. I started to build projects that worked. People began noticing my work. That’s when I understood that purpose isn’t waiting somewhere ahead of us. It grows with us. Every small win, every quiet night of trying, every failed idea adds up.

People often wait for that one perfect idea, that one passion, before they start. But the truth is, you discover what you care about only by doing things. Action reveals more than reflection ever will.

If you keep sitting around, thinking you’ll find yourself, you’ll end up stuck in the same loop. But when you start doing, experimenting, and learning, you begin to shape yourself.

When you look at anyone who’s great at something, whether it’s building a company, painting, writing, or designing, it’s easy to think they were born with talent. But most of them started out just like you. Confused. Lost. Unsure. The only difference is that they kept going.

So stop waiting to discover what you’re good at. Pick something that feels even slightly right and start working on it. Build, fail, learn, improve, repeat.

Because one day, when you look back, you’ll realize you didn’t find your purpose at all.
You built it quietly, brick by brick, through the choices you made every single day.